Stop Loving Someone
When you fall in love, chances are you cannot help how you feel but sometimes, you might wish that you were not in love.
If you love someone who does not feel the same about you and you are always longing to have affection from that person, it can cause you a lot of pain.
Maybe you love someone that shows that they do not love you the same way that you love them. Maybe you and your partner have so many differences in your personality and life that you do not see any way to have a real and lasting relationship.
No matter what the situation is, love can be hard. Even when you are in a relationship that you know might not go anywhere, it is hard to turn your feelings off.
Truth
Being positive is a good thing but when you are in a situation where things are hard and when there is pain, you might need to move forward out of the relationship. Consider your future and imagine what it would be like to be with this person.
What if you love this person and they do not love you the way that you love them? Maybe you feel like you are in love when you are in bed together but then the rest of the time you feel like you cannot even get along with each other.
If you feel that you need to move forward out of the relationship it can make you see that you need to have courage and move forward. Realizing that your relationship is not going where you want it to go can be hard, but this is a step forward.
Needs
Look at what you want in your relationship. Does the relationship that you are in look like what you want? If it doesn’t then you need to figure out that you might not fit together.
If you and your partner have a good thing going and you love to be together, this can help you to connect with them but soon, you will fall in love with them.
It can be weeks or months before you hear from this person and maybe they are not communicating with you and you message and get no response. If you love them and they are not meeting your needs, you might learn to get over them and feel differently for them than you thought.
What Does Love Mean?
Love is different for everyone. Some relationships grow at different times and some make us feel that we have meaningful times, conversations and situations. Other relationships are opportunities to do good things but when you give someone a space in your heart, you need to see if they are really with you or not.
Some experiences of your past can cause you to want to move forward and to have peace. You have to understand that your past can make your love different than it is.
Future
Look at someone that you have been with that did not feel the same way about you that you did about them. Do you want to be stuck in your relationship or would you rather find happiness?
If you do not feel that you are wanting something serious in your relationship, or if your partner is showing signs that they do not want to commit, remember that there are other people in the world and love can find you at a later time.
When you want to date and be more serious, finding the right partner might be hard. This takes time and dating is not always easy. Commit to moving forward and getting away from your past. If you find that your partner does not seem right for you, move forward. If you choose not to move forward, just enjoy the relationship being casual and be honest with them.
Prioritize
People sometimes have a broken heart and forget how important relationships are. Your family and friends will support you when your relationship ends, and your heart is broken. They will give you hope and will share with you things that they have been through.
Listen and allow your loved ones to give you guidance and to help you heal. Pay attention to how you interact with them and if you feel that they are judging you, limit your time that you spend with them.
Time for You
Spend time with yourself. When you are in love with someone, changing yourself is something that happens. You might change how you look and want to align your personality with them.
Figure out the parts of you that you love and do not deny them. Do not change things about yourself that you love. If you like to get dressed up, don’t give up on that.
Do not avoid expressing your feelings and be comfortable with who you are. If you want to change parts of yourself, do it for yourself and not for others.
Space
If you are ready to move on in your relationship, distance yourself and be your own friend. Love who you are and figure out how to love yourself and love being alone.
You can contact your friends and you can spend time with people that you stopped hanging out with while you were with your partner.
Time
Loving someone takes time and falling out of love do fade but it does not happen overnight. This can cause you to be upset or unhappy but there are some tips that you can use to work through this such as:
- Be patient with yourself.
- Love yourself.
- Be compassionate with yourself.
- Accept that you have hurt.
- Remind yourself that pain is not forever.
When you love someone that is not good for you it does not make you a bad person or someone that has flaws, this happens to everyone. Figure out how to change your perspective because your partner is most likely not going to change and be who you want them to be.
Talk to Someone
If you are experiencing hurt from moving on, talk to someone. Therapy is a place that you can go and express your emotions and tell someone how you are feeling without being judged. You should seek therapy if you feel:
- You cannot accept your feelings.
- You are in a dark place.
- You feel confused.
- You are having a hard life.
- You feel hopeless.
- You are anxious or depressed.
- You have suicidal thoughts.
Conclusion
People have strong emotions and they can be confusing sometimes. When you want to stop loving someone, this is not easy and there is nothing you can just turn on to do that.
You will always have feelings and when you love someone the feelings don’t go away just because you want them to.
Even if you have to stop loving someone because they are not good for you, you can do this and move forward even though it will be a period of pain and hurt. Do not stay with someone just because you feel bad for not wanting to love them anymore.