Start with the question you want an episode to help you think about. Why does the same disagreement keep coming back? How could you talk about spending without shame? What do you want after a breakup? A question will help you choose faster than a long list of shows.
The seven links below go to show pages where you can browse episodes. Some are older archives. If you’re listening with a partner, agree first on what you each want to get from the episode; neither of you has to see your relationship in the same way as the host.
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1. Where Should We Begin?
Browse Where Should We Begin?. Esther Perel’s show includes conversations with couples about difficulties they’re trying to understand, along with individual calls and guest interviews. Browse by topic if you want to hear how someone might talk about a subject that feels hard to raise at home.
If an episode reminds you of a disagreement you keep having, write down one question you’d like to ask differently. Leave room for your partner’s answer to surprise you.
2. Small Things Often
Browse Small Things Often. The Gottman Institute’s short episodes focus on everyday ways people can connect. The archive is a useful place to look when you have a few minutes and want to consider one habit, such as how you greet each other after time apart.
3. Money for Couples
Browse Money for Couples. Ramit Sethi talks with couples about how they handle money and the feelings that come with those choices. Start with a story that resembles a conversation you’re facing, whether it’s about different spending habits or what each person considers enough.
Take a question into your own conversation rather than copying another couple’s numbers. For instance: “What expense would you like us to agree on before either of us pays for it?”
4. Jillian on Love
Browse Jillian on Love. Jillian Turecki’s show focuses on romantic patterns, breakups and the relationship you have with yourself. Look here if you want a solo listen about why you keep agreeing to things you don’t want, or what you need before dating again.
5. Modern Love
Browse Modern Love. The New York Times show with Anna Martin uses personal stories and interviews to explore love in different forms. Choose it when you want a story that helps you see a situation from someone else’s point of view. Some material may require a subscription.
6. Love Is Like a Plant
Browse Love Is Like a Plant. Ellen Huerta and Sarah May B.’s archive includes episodes on breakups, staying in touch and making sense of a relationship that has ended. Browse the older episodes by topic. If the advice feels too prescriptive for your circumstances, keep the question it raised and leave the rest.
7. Confessions of a Terrible Husband
Browse Confessions of a Terrible Husband. Nick Pavlidis’s archive is centered on marriage and taking responsibility for your own habits. Some episodes are older, and the offers mentioned in them may have expired. Listen for an idea about something you can change yourself; neither partner has to take sole responsibility for improving a relationship.